We all have heard the term “Love is Blind”. It’s usually used in a romantic way and refers to loving someone despite their faults or imperfections. However, there are certain things in a relationship that should never be tolerated no matter the circumstances, and our blog aims to expose 5 habits of potentially toxic partners. Being in love is one of the best feelings in the world, but if your love is accompanied by feelings of fear, disrespect, or any other behaviors in this list, it’s a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
Disrespect. This comes in all shapes and forms, but one of the most common types of disrespect in a relationship is the act of belittling. If your partner makes you feel small, stupid, or insignificant in any way, you’re in a potentially damaging relationship. In a healthy relationship your partner will build your confidence up and make you feel like you can do anything in the world, not tear you down. You should never, ever, ever accept being disrespected in your relationship.
Control. Your partner should never be monitoring where you go, who you talk to, how much time you spend with your friends, etc. If they want you to call them to check in every hour that you’re apart, it probably means they have some control issues to figure out. You are not your partner’s property and you should be free to have your own life outside of your relationship. If you want to stay out until 4am eating pizza and ice cream with your girlfriends, then you should be allowed to.
Abuse. Abuse is never justified, whether it’s physical violence or verbal and emotional abuse. Don’t trick yourself into thinking it’s a one time thing and that it won’t happen again. If your partner puts his or her hands on you in a threatening way, get out before it happens again. And it’s the same for verbal and emotional abuse. Many people accept this type of abuse without even knowing it, but just because you’re not physically hurt doesn’t mean it’s not abuse. If your partner is making snide comments at you to influence your behavior or create self-doubt, then you’re in an abusive relationship.
Alienation. This goes hand-in-hand with the control habit. If your partner doesn’t like your friends or family and tries to prevent you from seeing them, they are making an attempt to alienate you. Not liking your friends or family should be a huge red flag as it is, but if they start controlling who you spend time with, you need to hightail it out of there.
Cheating. It seems silly to even have to put this in the list because it should just be common sense, but even cheating is often overlooked when a person is blindly in love. So let me hammer this into your mind: IF THEY LOVE YOU, THEY WILL NOT CHEAT ON YOU. When you truly love someone, the thought of being with anyone else makes you sick to your stomach. Being drunk is not an excuse. Being lonely is not an excuse. There are no excuses, so don’t even give them the time of day to come up with an excuse.