Toxic behavior can be hard to spot. At times it’s visible from day one of the relationship, but most of the time it rears its ugly little head weeks, months, or even years into a relationship. We start to question ourselves, thinking that maybe, quite possibly he has been toxic from the very beginning and we just overlooked the signals. If you’re questioning whether he’s toxic or simply just douchey, then this blog is for you! Read on to find out 7 signs that you’re with someone who is toxic for you.
He always needs to be right or prove his point
At some stage, it’s best to agree to disagree on certain topics, but nope, not with him. He will pull up google and start throwing facts at you from left, right and center. He will call Google if he has to, just so he can get a solid answer to prove his perfect rightness. In a relationship, there should be no winner or loser, but to him, you’re always going to be the one losing and he’s going to make sure it stays that way.
He gives you weird compliments
You can’t really tell if he’s complimenting you or just straight up insulting you most of the time. He’ll say things like, “You’re not like typical girly-girls i’ve dated”, and you now suddenly wonder if you have the aura of a 12-year-old boy. Or my personal favorite, “You look nice when you put in effort”. Soooo… do I look ugly when i’m chilling in sweatpants 99% of the time then? His compliments are more like backhanded compliments, and usually come off as borderline insulting.
Drama always seems to revolve around him
If drama was a planet, he would be the sun (unrelated science nerd humor… get it?!). But seriously, he is always at the center of any disagreements among his friends, family, coworkers, etc. It almost seems like he enjoys being involved in other people’s problems, and you never seem to hear the end of it.
Conversation is one-sided
You try to talk about things that matter to you but he simply brushes off the conversation or changes the topic to something that revolves around him. There’s only so much you can take when it comes to listening to him talk about his favorite NFL team’s stats or his new workout protein powder. You need meaningful conversations every once in awhile – not just surface-level chit-chat that makes you feel like complete strangers.
He treats other people poorly
If he’s treating the people who aren’t in his tight circle as if they were peasants, then he’s both toxic as well as a douchebag… Double whammy. This kind of toxic behavior will translate into the relationship eventually, if not already, and pretty soon he’ll be treating you like a peasant too.
He has control issues
You usually don’t think it would be an issue to call someone back an hour after missing their call, but with him, don’t you even DARE! He needs a call back pronto or else he will be huffing and puffing for the rest of the day.
He doesn’t take anything seriously
He somehow finds a way to make a joke about every single thing you bring up; that deep-rooted insecurity that you wanted to confide in him about, the new responsibilities that are stressing you out at work, your worries over your parent’s health. He can (and will) turn everything into a joke, and can never seem to have a serious conversation with you.
You feel something wrong in your gut
Your gut can tell you a lot about a situation and if yours is full of uneasiness, then it’s a pretty clear sign that something is drastically wrong. It’s based on your past experiences and your general sense of right and wrong, so if something feels seriously off, then you need to trust your gut feeling!