When it comes to a first date, we all obviously want to make a good impression on the other person. Some daters, however, make some epic no-no’s without even realizing they’re doing anything wrong. This blog is purely based on my own personal experiences, but i’m sure every woman out there can relate to my 6 biggest turn-offs when it comes to a first date. All in all, the following list summarizes what not to do on a first date:
Being rude to the waiter/waitress/host
How a guy treats the restaurant staff is the quickest way to determine whether he’s a douchebag. If he is being snappy and rude to the service staff right from the get-go, it’s one of the biggest mistakes a guy can make on a date. I’ve been a waitress before and it’s not easy dealing with those customers who think they are all high and mighty, so if my date treats the staff with anything less than the utmost respect, there’s a 100% chance he’ll never see me again. And hopefully one of them will have spit in his food.
Checking his phone consistently
There’s a line that must be drawn on first dates when it comes to your phone. Personally, I would understand if a guy were to check his phone quickly once or twice, but if he blatantly keeps his phone on the table and his eyes dart to the screen with every notification, it’s a HUGE turn off. A little word to the wise: keep it in your pocket if you want the date to go well.
Zoning out during a conversation
If i’m telling a guy about myself and his eyes have completely glazed over while he throws in a “mhmm” and “yeah” every few sentences, then it’s a clear sign that he’s barely listening to a word i’m saying. I don’t want to feel like i’m talking to a brick wall, so not paying attention is a surefire way to make sure there will be no second date!
Bragging about materialistic things
I get it – If you have something nice, you want to tell people about it and impress them. But when a guy is bragging about his new expensive Mercedes Benz, his high-end designer clothes, his luxury vacations to Ibiza, etc etc, it’s going to take every ounce of willpower I have to not roll my eyes. Materialistic things should never be the focus of a first date conversation, especially if it’s being brought up to try to impress me.
Not letting your date get two words in
When a guy can’t seem to let me get a word in about myself because he’s too busy talking about himself for the whole entire date, it’s a major turn off. A first date conversation is a two-way street, and if he hasn’t asked me a single question about myself, it seems to me that he’s a little too obsessed with himself for my liking!
Simple etiquette goes a long way on a first date, but if a guy is seriously lacking in the manners department then the date will go downhill fast. If we’re in a restaurant and every other word that comes out of the guy’s mouth is the F-Bomb, it comes off as pretty inappropriate. I’m no saint and I typically have a potty mouth when it comes to swearing, but if i’m on a first date and it’s a constant string of “this burger is so effing good”, “I effing love Netflix”, F this, F that, I’m going to be a little concerned and a lot turned off.